How to create healthy boundaries, and protect your precious energy
Hello darling Flow friends,
I think at our very core we all crave simplicity, where we have the time we need to be our best selves, and pay attention to the important things, like our relationships and general wellbeing as a whole.
Yet there is a disconnect, we have allowed our world to move so fast, that most of us are just holding on for dear life, doing our best to satisfy all of the responsibilities, obligations and timelines that rest on our shoulders.
How can we be the best us, when we are energetically depleted and ragged at the edges???
Lets look at how we are using our energy, and if these exchanges are really what is the best for us.
"Become more aware of what's worth your energy"
what lights up your unique energy?
Ask yourself what is it that truly lights you up?? I have so many friends that thrive on a busy social calendar, and are left feeling deficient when they have too much down time.
Personally, I crave time in nature, opportunities to explore new places, art galleries, long deep and meaning full conversations, and lazy afternoons reading a book the beach.
Take a moment to write down the top 3 things that make you happy and fill you up.
who do you most enjoy spending your precious time with?
We all have those glorious friendships where the time just disappears in a happy blur of love and laughter, make more time for those people!
And just for a moment, lets also talk about energetic vampires too, yes, unfortunately we have all encountered people who leave use feeling exhausted and depleted, even after just the most brief interactions, sometimes we continue on with these associations at our own energetic expense for far too long.
Perhaps its time to have a stocktake of the people we spend our time with, your energy doesn't lie, if you're not getting a good vibe maybe its time to create some space, that means virtually too, delete the accounts you are following that make you feel less than, or just flat out awful.
What do we do if we cant completely discontinue our contact?? maybe they are a family member or a work colleague?
In these situations protect your energy by imagining yourself surrounded by an interpretable light of love, which will not allow your energy to be drained, or maybe using energetic rituals like having a protective crystal in your protect, opening a window to let fresh energy in, or lighting an incense, brushing your energetic field is very helpful too.
"Boundaries are not drawn to keep others out, but to keep safe what resides within"
How to set healthy boundaries to protect your energy
To start with lets take a good hard look at ourselves, lady, let me tell you, you are so valuable, talented, courageous, and worth more to those around you, than you will properly ever even imagine, so lets take a moment to let that soak in, let it be your mantra, close your eyes and create a mantra that builds you up, something like.... 'I am beautiful, strong and capable, and I choose to use my energy wisely"
Then the second part, know your truth, remembering what we choose to accept is how we show others to treat us, don't be afraid to speak your truth loud and clear, these words shape our world.
You have the power to guild the people in your life, to treat you as you deserve, by using expressive conversations that comes straight from your heart.
the energy edit
The only constant in life is change, I read the below poem years ago, and it has always remained in my mind, whenever I encounter new opportunities or friendships I never hold on too tight, as often its not obvious which of the below categories the energy exchange will be, all experiences have their own beauty and are formative, but please don't fear letting go once the time comes.
By: Brian A. “Drew” Chalker
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason, you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they pass away, sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.
LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway) and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
- Importantly, understand what and who makes you happy, spend more time in those peoples company, doing more of what your love.
- Set healthy boundaries by expressing yourself clearly about your needs and expectations.
- Edit what/who is draining you, or put in place rituals for renewal.
- Be open to new experiences and friendships.
- Know your worth :)
Sending you love and blessings, till next we meet.
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